Craigslist Dating: The Rules
Dating can be easy, pleasant and do not have to stressful at all. You just have to realize some things and follow some simple rules.
The other day I was going through craigslist and found an interesting post – post about online dating using craigslist personals. Of course it can be adjusted to any online dating service – it is not dedicated only for craigslist personal ads.
You can find the original post on craigslist.org here.
Here’s what the author wrote:
Rule One: There are no rules... It's a beautiful thing.
Rule Two: Yes, pictures can be misleading, yet you insist. Be prepared for this and take it like a gentleman and be considerate, you do not need to marry this person. Sheesh ... it's only a date. Life's a gamble.
Rule Three: Be as honest as possible. If your life is dull, try to at least have fun with your post, and maybe something fun will come your way. Don't get carried away, just try incorporating one of your interests. Women like honesty. Honestly.
Rule Four: You are not necessarily expected to pay. If you feel inclined, so be it, just don't do so, expecting something in return (wink). If the woman you are with, is not at all what you had in mind, discuss splitting the bill early on. That should do it.
Rule Five: Be realistic and stay within your league, meaning, if you are Joe Average, don't be so disappointed when only Plain Jane’s reply.
Rule Six: For whatever reason, when girls mention sex in their postings it's exhilarating to most members of the opposite sex, unfortunately the same does not hold true for our male counterparts. We're girls, we KNOW you like sex, so why not only mention sex if this is something you DO NOT enjoy, otherwise guys, it's a given. Got it.
Rule Seven: Stay focused. Most people cannot read your mind. For example 'SWM, Professional, Educated, Attractive, Fit, seeks same' is not a whole lot to go on. As a matter of fact, this describes the majority of single people living in this city, it may be an unwritten rule someone forgot to tell all of us about. Anyway, try: I like.... a girl who... I consider myself...
Rule Eight: Don't be mean. What's the point? When you meet with someone remember that everyone is doing the best they can. I once met a guy who BEGGED me to meet with him (picture exchange and all) and when we did he kissed my cheek and said "I'm going to have to take a pass". OK, I appreciate his honesty and can handle this, but I have a friend who is on the mend from a broken heart. Something like this would crush her. Something to think about.
Rule Nine: It's only a date. You asked for it, you got it, for better or worse. Enjoy, you never know, you could at least make a new friend (i.e. professional contact). Relax.
Rule Ten: You only live once. Choose your partner wisely. The person you choose to love can make or break you, per se. If you don't take this advice beware, you may someday end up posting a M4W 'Married man in unfulfilled marriage seeking fulfillment in any way'. Follow your hearts gents, 'cause the best thing that ever happened to you may come wrapped in a package that's not 'slender, successful, extremely fashionable, and perfect'. It's a jungle out there...
"Enjoy yourself, enjoy yourself, it's later than you think".